From People Pleaser to Empowered: How Reiki Helped Me Set Boundaries and Enhance My Wellbeing

For as long as I can remember, I was a chronic people pleaser. I found it difficult to say no, constantly putting others' needs before my own. While this made me feel appreciated, it also left me feeling drained, overwhelmed, and disconnected from my true self. My health and well-being suffered, and my relationships, both with family and in my love life, were strained. 

My journey towards empowerment began when I discovered Reiki. This ancient healing practice not only helped me reconnect with my inner self but also provided me with the tools to set healthy boundaries. Through Reiki, I learned that taking care of myself was not selfish but essential for my overall well-being.

How Reiki Helped Me Set Boundaries

  1. Self-Awareness and Self-Love

Reiki sessions helped me become more self-aware. I started to recognize the patterns of my people-pleasing behaviour and how it affected my energy levels. By practicing self-Reiki, I cultivated a sense of self-love and respect, which became the foundation for setting boundaries.

  1. Energy Protection Techniques

Reiki taught me techniques to protect my energy. Visualizing a protective light around me helped shield my energy from being depleted by others. This simple practice empowered me to maintain my energy levels and stay grounded.

  1. Mindfulness and Intuition

Reiki enhanced my mindfulness and intuition. I became more attuned to my feelings and needs, allowing me to recognize when I was overextending myself. This awareness enabled me to make conscious choices about where to invest my energy.

Examples of Setting Boundaries

  1. Family Relationships

In my family, I often felt obligated to say yes to every request, even when it was inconvenient. Through Reiki, I learned to communicate my needs assertively and respectfully. For example, I started setting aside specific times for family activities and made it clear when I needed personal time to recharge.

  1. Love Life

In my romantic relationship, I struggled with expressing my needs, fearing it would cause conflict. Reiki helped me find the courage to have open and honest conversations with my partner. By setting boundaries, we developed a deeper understanding and respect for each other’s needs, strengthening our bond.

Step-by-Step Guide to Setting Boundaries for People Pleasers

  1. Identify Your Needs

    • Take time to reflect on what you need to feel balanced and energized.
    • Write down your needs and prioritize them.

  2. Practice Self-Reiki

    • Use self-Reiki to connect with your inner self and cultivate self-love.
    • Focus on your heart chakra to enhance self-compassion and confidence.

  3. Visualize Protective Light

    • Before interacting with others, visualize a protective light around you.
    • This light acts as a shield, preserving your energy.

  4. Communicate Assertively

    • Practice expressing your needs clearly and respectfully.
    • Use “I” statements to communicate your feelings without blaming others.

  5. Set Clear Boundaries

    • Be specific about what you can and cannot do.
    • For example, “I can help with this project, but I need to finish my tasks first.”

  6. Practice Saying No

    • Start with small, low-stakes situations to practice saying no.
    • Remember, saying no to others is saying yes to yourself.

  7. Seek Support

    • Surround yourself with supportive people who respect your boundaries.
    • Consider working with a Reiki Master Practitioner for additional guidance.

Reiki has been a transformative tool in my journey from being a chronic people pleaser to an empowered individual. By setting healthy boundaries, I have enhanced my health, well-being, and relationships. Remember, taking care of yourself is the first step towards truly being able to care for others. Embrace the power of Reiki and start setting those boundaries today! Book an in-person Reiki session today or consider a long-distance Reiki session if you're outside the Halton Region of Ontario. Let it go with REIKI offers a free discovery call for all new clients - check in with Reiki Master Practitioner Teacher Calah -calah@letitgowithreiki.com

Sending reiki rays for secure boundaries to enhance your well-being. Love you. 

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