Love Me - A Reiki Grandmother's Gentle Guide to Coming Home
A Reiki-infused journey to self-forgiveness, healing, and reclaiming your worth.
There are days…
Even whole seasons…
Where love feels a million miles away.
You could be surrounded by family, in a relationship, or even holding someone else’s hand
And, yet you feel all …
Alone.
I’ve felt it too, dear child.
That aching silence that lives in the chest when we’ve said something we regret…
When we’ve tried to be good enough, kind enough, lovable enough…
And yet it still didn’t feel like enough.
Maybe you’ve bent yourself backward to please others.
Maybe you’ve been abandoned.
Maybe you abandoned yourself.
Whatever the path, I am writing today to tell you from the depths of my own scarred and sacred heart:
‘You can come back to yourself. And when you do, you will remember: you have always been worthy of love.’
When the Love Feels Gone
I once worked with a woman. I’ll call her Eleanor.
She was radiant on the outside.
Two children. A full-time job. A caregiver for her aging parents.
But, inside?
She was depleted. She was empty. She was exhausted. She was angry…
Mostly at herself.
Her voice trembled when she shared:
“I forgive everyone who ever left me… but I can’t seem to
forgive myself for letting it all happen.”
That’s the heartbreak of the unseen woman. The forgotten self.
We give and give.
We’re the rock, the nurturer, the listener.
And somewhere along the way, our own needs became an afterthought.
That’s not weakness.
That’s trauma. That’s survival.
But it’s NOT your destiny.
The Science Backs This, Too
Dr. Kristin Neff, a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, shares that:
“Self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same
kindness and care you would offer to a good friend.”
Neuroscience confirms when we activate compassion toward ourselves, even after mistakes, the brain begins to calm its fear centers. The nervous system can relax.
This is where healing starts.
And Reiki?
Reiki helps us return to that compassionate state and not by force, but through presence.
Step 1: The Sacred Art of Intention
Healing begins with permission.
So today, whisper this to yourself:
‘I give myself permission to come home to me.’
Set this as your intention. Don't set it to fix, to be perfect but to simply, return.
Here’s how you do it:
- Light a candle.
- Place both hands over your heart.
- Breathe in slowly for 4 counts and exhale for 6.
- Say softly:
‘My intention is to forgive myself. I am ready to love me again.’
Write it down. Post it on your mirror, your front door, your fridge. Post it where you see it every day. Repeat it each morning like a sacred mantra.
Step 2: Reiki Support — Softening the Edges
Reiki energy is not loud.
It does not rush.
It does not shame.
When I place my hands over my heart during Reiki practice, I imagine my younger self — tired, abandoned, crying in the corner of my soul. And, I recite:
‘You are seen. You are loved. Come sit with me.’
That’s how we soften.
That’s how the jagged edges of guilt and shame begin to dissolve.
Even if you’re not Reiki-attuned, you can receive this healing:
- Lay down or sit comfortably.
- Place one hand over your heart and the other over your lower belly.
- Visualize a warm, golden light flowing from your arms through your hands into your body.
- Breathe deep and repeat:
‘I am forgiven. I am healing. I am whole.
Step 3: The Forgiveness Meditation "I Love Me”
Here’s a practice I share with every woman who has forgotten and lost her light:
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“I Love Me” - your Self-Forgiveness Meditation
(5–7 mins)
- Sit in stillness. Candle lit. Eyes closed.
- Inhale deeply… hold for a moment… and exhale slowly.
- Say: “I forgive myself for the times I didn’t show up for me. I forgive myself for not knowing what I didn’t know. I choose now. I choose now to come home to me.”
- Visualize your heart floating in your chest opening like a flower. Visualize warm light pouring into your heart and filling your chest cavity.
- Whisper: ‘I love me. I love me. I love me.’
Note: Tears may come. Let them caress your cheeks gently with gratitude. Let the silence stretch. Let the healing begin.
Real Life: Coming Back to Love
Eleanor, that woman I told you about?
She began with just 5 minutes of Reiki self-practice a day.
At first, she felt silly. Nothing changed right away.
But, then she started saying no to things that drained her.
She started journaling. Walking barefoot outside.
She began whispering “I love you” to her reflection without flinching.
And one day, she said this to me:
“I didn’t just forgive myself. I remembered myself. I came back home.”
Your Time Is Now
If no one has told you lately:
You are not broken.
You are not too late.
You are not unlovable.
You are a woman who has lived, who has hurt, who has risen.
And you deserve to come back to your own heart.
“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” -- Diane Von Furstenberg
🌿 Gentle Tips to Begin Today:
- 🌸 Say “I love you” to yourself out loud, even once a day.
- 🌕 Use the full moon or new moon to journal what you’re releasing and what you’re calling in.
- 🌾 Lay down with your hands on your heart and belly and just breathe.
- 🕊️ Choose peace over perfection. Rest over proving.
- 🔮 Reiki: Book a session, take a class, or simply be open to receive.
💫 Final Words from a Reiki Grandmother’s Heart
You are not too far gone.
You are not too much or not enough.
You are here. You are breathing, reading, feeling.
And that is all the proof you need that healing is possible.
Say it with me now:
“I love me.”
Again.
“I love me.”
One more time, like you mean it:
“I. Love. Me.”
🌷 Want Support in Loving Yourself Again?
If this touched your soul, I invite you to walk with me deeper.
Join a Reiki class. Receive healing. Create sacred space in your life again.
You don’t have to do this alone.
👉 Email Reiki Master Calah and begin your Reiki healing journey.
Your heart is waiting.